I read “How to be heard” on Seth Godin’s blog and was inspired. So I wanted to take his nuggets of wisdom and share my own thoughts on how you can really start to establish authority in the workplace and be heard at meetings.
“Do your homework.”
Don’t expect people to fill you in and catch you up on what you need to do. Be prepared and do your research ahead of time so you’re going in with a full understanding of the project and the expectations that go along with it.
“Show up with contributions and connections long before you bring your opinion.”
You can’t go in on day one and demand everyone listen to you. That’s a good way to rub people the wrong way. You need to build respect and show your value long before you bring your own thoughts and opinions to the table.
“Save the snark for later.”
It might feel satisfying to get the last word in, especially during a heated debate; however, at the end of the day all that’s going to do is bite you in the butt. Remain professional and set egos aside.
“Pay your dues.”
Everyone has to put in that hard work up front. You can’t roll in expecting to be the boss from day one, so keep showing up and it will be recognized.
“Speak up about shared truths, shared principles and shared goals.”
Connecting on strong grounds like shared truths and values is a great way to build rapport with your teammates. This will turn into strong relationships in the future.
“Don’t blame the ref only when the call is against you.”
No one likes a finger pointer. We all make mistakes, but what really makes a person of character is owning those mistakes and fixing them.
“Reflect back what you believe the other person is trying to say before you disagree with it.”
Building great relationships is all down to communication. Make sure you are understanding the other person before you decide you’re against it. A lot of misunderstandings can be avoided this way.
“If you want to persuade on the merits, avoid joining the threatening mob.”
When it comes to persuading it should always be fact based and data driven. Don’t resort to threats or gaining up against another team member.
“Convert six people before you try to convert sixty.”
It’s like the little engine that could. Focus on convincing a small group first before you set your sights on everyone getting on board with you.
“Tell true stories.”
Being trustworthy is so important in any professional field. Don’t blow it by making a story “better” with exaggerated truths or embellishments to get a rise out of people. Respect is much longer lived.
You can read Seth Godin’s original post here: How to be heard